Reference

Romans 12:3-8
1. Think Of Yourself Soberly**
Romans 12:3 (NASB), “For through the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think more highly of himself than he ought to think; but to think so as to have sound judgment, as God has allotted to each a measure of faith.” 
“Pride makes us artificial and humility makes us real.”  - Thomas Merton
An authentic church is free of a disease called, “comparisonitis” – measuring our worth by comparing ourselves to others.
**2. Function in the Church Interdependently **
Romans 12:4, “For just as we have many parts in one body and all the body’s parts do not have the same function, 5 so we, who are many, are one body in Christ, and individually parts of one another.”
Michael Bird, “It is important that we remember that we are part of a larger organism. We are not just a group of individuals each doing our own thing.”
**3. Use Your Gifts Properly **
Romans 12:6, “However, since we have gifts that differ according to the grace given to us, each of us is to use them properly: if prophecy, in proportion to one’s faith; 7 if service, in the act of serving; or the one who teaches, in the act of teaching; 8 or the one who exhorts, in the work of exhortation; the one who gives, with generosity; the one who is in leadership, with diligence; the one who shows mercy, with cheerfulness.”
“Properly” captures the context of this whole passage (Romans 12:1-8)
First, we receive God’s Mercies.
Then, then we get God’s Mind.
Then, we know God’s Will.
Then we use our gifts properly, with humility (not pridefully). 
Dysfunction in the church happens when gifts come before grace, when talent comes without transformation, and when works come without worship. 
CONCLUSION: How do I find my Spiritual Gift? 
Answer: The Romans 12:1-8 way:
1. Receive the mercies of God in the Gospel.
2. Offer our bodies to God as living sacrifices. 12:1
3. Renew our minds and know God’s will. 12:2
4. Think of ourselves soberly. 12:3
5. Function in the church interdependently. 12:3-4
6. Begin using our gifts properly. 12:6-8
7. Find our gifts, or our gifts will find us!
One final word: 
“For those who are spiritually gifted, it is vital that they nurture humility in themselves. Otherwise their giftedness is not an offering to God or a tool for growing the church; instead, it becomes an idol to the cult of self.” - Michael Bird